By Zofia Dove
Feb 1st, 2016
Have you been around someone, who is criticizing others, pointing to their weaknesses? What did you think or feel around a person like this? Did you wonder if at your absence they might say similar things about you?
Criticism expressed, especially behind someone’s back, points to the weakness of the speaking party; it cautions the listener from being too open and inhibits trust. Criticism expressed directly or indirectly is futile; it diminishes sense of value of another, causes resentment and defensiveness.
Research shows that every human being learns, retains and grows rapidly in an environment of appreciation and encouragement.
- Look and listen for the goodness, great skills and positive traits in your team members.
- Recognize: share with the person what you noticed and how you learned from their conduct and example.
Appreciate: use “Thank You” often, very often.
Encourage: by an unexpected written note, a positive verbal feedback and/or better yet, a comment made to someone else about the person’s quality, strength or great performance.
- Be sincere in your comments. In general people can detect the difference between flattery and sincere, from the heart, appreciation.
- Be lavish in positive feedback, it takes seven positive comments to off set one point of critique expressed in respectful, private, unpublicized manner.
If you want to bring the best out of your team members, look for the best in people. This is what great and strong leaders do.
True leaders are trustworthy. They understand- trust is the most basic element, a foundation to any flourishing, growing and expanding organization.
Trust is not an abstract; it is earned by consistency in performance, reliable manner, it is gradual build up of a confidence in a person. It is earned by the leader’s action and self- control.
An open door policy and great listening skills are important to earn the team members’ trust. Confidentiality is essential in building it. Team member who have confidence and trust in their leader, have no fear in being vulnerable in sharing any concern.
A trustworthy leader relates to his people, he/she has core values, commitment strength of character and is a living example to all.
Every person has inherited qualities, gifts and strength. Not everyone is aware of his or her own potential.
Great leader recognizes the gifts in another, he/she not only points this out to that person, he/ she encourages and coaches the person to their highest performance.
The leader raises the bar high, and then treads the person as if they already achieved the anticipated high level by encouragement, motivation and ongoing training.
The best leader is not threatened by others’ success he/ she motivates and helps others to get ahead, to become what they are capable of being; being they best.
The most certain way to become a better leader is to practice ongoing self-examination. The journey within will make you realize what strength you already have and what weaknesses are asking to be worked on. This ongoing process will keep you humble and will help you to become more tolerant and wise while working with those whose opinion differ from yours.
The only person who you can change is yourself. The change begins with you.
Where are you going, what is the vision, the purpose? Are you following the beaten path or are you willing to take a risk and take a turn into undiscovered territory.
How courageous are you to lead your troops regardless of the advise of well meaning experts. How committed are you?
What pulls you this way? What is your intention? Where was it born? It must come from a truthful place, service to others or/and noble part within you?
Ones you find answer to these question you are ready. Anticipate unexpected “climate” changes and unexpected turns on the journey. If the intention is rooted in deep conviction, unchangeable truth and fueled by clear vision you are ready.
Once you have a clear direction armoured with determination you are ready “just start”.
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